The door slammed in our faces.
For eight years, I had been connected to and working together with a team and community, creating beautiful businesses for ourselves and for other women and their families. And then it ended — right before Christmas.
It didn’t feel like a blessing at the time.
So there I was, standing in a very familiar place. It’s time for something new. What shall that be?
One day, while searching the internet, I came across something I’d never heard of before. I was intrigued. I could simply use my birthday to uncover my true gifts for what was next for me. It wasn’t another personality quiz or strengths-finding exercise like the ones I’d gone through in the corporate world years earlier. It took me directly into the beautiful gifts woven into my soul before and at the time of my birth. A full-spectrum, soul-aligned guidance system. The true story of me.
And I had an aha moment.
Over the years, I’d watch incredible people make their dreams come true. And at the same time, I’d see others walk away from their dreams because they’d decided this isn’t for me. There’s something wrong with me. How could all these other people be moving forward, while I’m still standing still?
The pattern was evident across the entire industry. Some sales teams could crush it; others, not so much. Some gurus brought their frameworks to the table, and lots of people chimed in to say it worked beautifully — while others stayed stuck. This is the way. It’s step by step, it’s simple. All you have to do is put in the work.
Even the programs promising there’s no one size fits all, we’ll customize this to what you need would plug people into the same exact system, step by step. So why is that?
It was in those moments, watching good people give up on themselves, that I would lose little pieces of my faith.
When that last door slammed, it gave me the chance to step back, pause and be open to what was next. And here came this gift. I don’t even remember exactly how it came — only that I knew I needed to follow this new thread and see where it took me.
For the last three years, that’s exactly what I’ve done. I like to go deep. I like to research, go through trial and error, and figure out what works for me. And in the process I realized I could help other women do the same — not the way I’m doing it, but in the way that’s best for her.
So together, we look at what’s best for her: her journey so far, where she might be frustrated, off track or even stuck — and where she truly wants to go next. Not what she thinks she should do next. Where she truly wants to go.
Just like I used my birthday to uncover my true gifts, we do the same for her. One-on-one, because the focus should be on her. She can put her soul before any strategy or advice outside herself, lean on the wisdom within, generate her own power, success and sustainability — and have faith over any fears that come up. Her one-of-a-kind gifts are the way.
Whether a door has been slammed in her face like it was for me, or she’s wanting to shut the door herself, it all starts with the foundation: our own gifts, at a deep level.
When I first saw my gifts crystal clear in front of me, questions I had carried for years started to have answers. My imagination, inspiration and creativity — my way of figuring things out and making things happen — had always been lit up. Once I started unwrapping these gifts, they became even brighter. This is how I figure things out. This is the way I love to make my decisions. This is my true voice. This is why I’m one of a kind by design.
And then it was like rewinding the hands of time. I could see all the people I’d met along the journey who had somehow decided to get off the path. If they’d had this in the palm of their hands — if they’d known their own gifts and could work with them in their own time, their own space, their own way — they might have become more lit up, just like me. They might have kept going instead of walking away.
That was the true page turner for me.
Another candle on the cake, another wish comes along. We all have these wishes in our hearts and souls of the things that we truly want — and the answers to every one of them have been riding right beside us, all along.
Underneath all the wishes, there’s a yearning in our hearts to keep becoming more fully alive — fully embodied with the gifts that only we can carry, for ourselves and for others.
Every single one of us is deserving of being intimately connected to the wisdom within — the gifts given only to us. Yet they weren’t meant to just stay with us. We were meant to shower our unique wisdom out into the world, into our relationships, our work and all that we create.
Even the rough edges are part of the journey. They’re actually part of the gift. Our guidance system isn’t in the back seat. It’s riding shotgun.
Not autopilot, but an empowered, intentional, beautiful story that gets to unfold each and every single day, because we have the pen in our hands.
xo, Sharon
P.S. Whether your birthday was a while ago or it’s coming up soon, there is wisdom within your birthday every single day of the year. If you’d love to start unwrapping your one-of-a-kind gifts, let’s connect. We can start to look at your gifts together and talk about what might be next for you, including what your next best steps could look like. My intention is that you’ll walk away feeling like you’ve just given yourself a beautiful gift.
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